12.11.2009

11.10.2009

"Feminine Faith In A Feminist World"

A Conference...

Have you considered how feminist ideals have affected your perception of the role of women? At the Fall 2009 Northbrook Conference for Women, we considered popular ideas of women in the home, workplace, church, and culture, and how these ideas compare to God's wise and gracious design for women.

Our speaker, Carolyn McCulley, is a former feminist who now accepts the biblical distinctions between men and women.

Find the audio here.

11.03.2009

Excellent Help For Witnessing To Mormons

How To Witness To Mormons

The point, or goal, when using the Socratic method on Mormonism’s theological system, is to bring the Mormon to the place of seeing that Mormonism’s plan of salvation does not save him. The place of ultimate tension surrounds the atonement: this will be the climax of the conversation and it is here that the heart of the spiritual battle will be waged.

HT @douglaswils

10.21.2009

"To God Jesus Christ"



The third and final inscription makes it unmistakably clear that this place was intended to serve the religious needs of the Christian community organized in the Roman military camp. It also removes any doubt that a table once existed in the center of the hall—paid for by a woman named Akeptous: “The God-loving Akeptous has offered the table to God Jesus Christ as a memorial.”

The words “God Jesus Christ” on the next-to-last line are abbreviated in the form of a contraction consisting of the first and last letters of the two words. Above the two sacred words is a straight line. While these abbreviations and the line above indicating sacred words was later a common practice, this is their earliest attestation.b

prayer hall
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And this is the earliest inscription ever found in Israel, and perhaps anywhere, that mentions Jesus Christ!

Will You Pray?

From an old Piper sermon and very relevant to me:

I will close with a record of something God did 130 years ago in New York City. It illustrates how God has started every harvest time in history through the concerted prayer of his people. Toward the middle of the last century the glow of earlier religious awakenings had faded. America was prosperous and felt little need to call on God. But in the 1850s . . .

Secular and religious conditions combined to bring about a crash. The third great panic in American history swept the giddy structure of speculative wealth away. Thousands of merchants were forced to the wall as banks failed and railroads went into bankruptcy. Factories were shut down and vast numbers thrown out of employment. New York City alone having 30,000 idle men. In October 1857, the hearts of people were thoroughly weaned from speculation and uncertain gain, while hunger and despair stared them in the face.

On July 1, 1857, a quiet and zealous businessman named Jeremiah Lanphier took up an appointment as a City Missionary in down-town New York. Lanphier was appointed by the North Church of the Dutch Reformed denomination. This church was suffering from depletion of membership due to the removal of the population from the down-town to the better residential quarters, and the new City Missionary was engaged to make diligent visitation in the immediate neighborhood with a view to enlisting church attendance among the floating population of the lower city. The Dutch Consistory felt that it had appointed an ideal layman for the task in hand, and so it was.

Burdened so by the need, Jeremiah Lanphier decided to invite others to join him in a noonday prayer-meeting, to be held on Wednesdays once a week. He therefore distributed a handbill:

HOW OFTEN SHALL I PRAY?

As often as the language of prayer is in my heart; as often as I see my need of help; as often as I feel the power of temptation; as often as I am made sensible of any spiritual declension or feel the aggression of a worldly spirit.

In prayer we leave the business of time for that of eternity, and intercourse with men for intercourse with God.

A day Prayer Meeting is held every Wednesday, from 12 to 1 o'clock, in the Consistory building in the rear of the North Dutch Church, corner of Fulton and William Streets (entrance from Fulton and Ann Streets).

This meeting is intended to give merchants, mechanics, clerks, strangers, and business men generally an opportunity to stop and call upon God amid the perplexities incident to their respective avocations. It will continue for one hour; but it is also designed for those who may find it inconvenient to remain more than five or ten minutes, as well as for those who can spare the whole hour.

Accordingly at twelve noon, September 23, 1857, the door was opened and the faithful Lanphier took his seat to await the response to his invitation. Five minutes went by. No one appeared. The missionary paced the room in a conflict of fear and faith. Ten minutes elapsed. Still no one came. Fifteen minutes passed. Lanphier was yet alone. Twenty minutes; twenty-five; thirty; and then at 12.30 p.m., a step was heard on the stairs, and the first person appeared, then another, and another, and another, until six people were present, and the prayer meeting began. On the following Wednesday, October 7th, there were forty intercessors.

Thus, in the first week of October 1857, it was decided to hold a meeting daily instead of weekly.

Within six months, ten thousand business men were gathering daily for prayer in New York, and within two years, a million converts were added to the American churches.

Undoubtedly the greatest revival in New York's colorful history was sweeping the city, and it was of such an order to make the whole nation curious. There was no fanaticism, no hysteria, simply an incredible movement of the people to pray.

Is there a Jeremiah Lanphier among you?

9.18.2009

Do Not Be Like Mike


From Voddie Baucham:
There was a stark difference between the two acceptance speeches. As I listened to the two speeches, all I could think of was the old commercial catchphrase, “Like Mike... If I could be like Mike.” Unfortunately, in this instance, Mike was the last person anyone should aspire to be like. This was definitely not a Michael Jordan highlight. Jordan’s Speech was self-centered, indulgent, arrogant, and at times embarrassing. In contrast, David Robinson rose to the occasion and made a brief, inspiring, encouraging speech (see his speech here) that made his family, his team, and his friends proud.

8.02.2009

7.31.2009

Entertain-o Church From the Atheist's Perspective

Read and say "ouch" here:
HT: @Phil_Johnson_

Here's to Idolatry

Religious Statue Falls And Breaks In Church
HT: Between Two Worlds

7.30.2009

Your Routine

Francis Chan - Balance Beam

7.16.2009

Raising Kids in a Pornified Culture

Helpful.  From Zach Nielson re: @betweentwoworlds.
1. Aim to give our kids a huge view of God who is gloriously delightful.
2. Teach them the gospel. 
3. Teach them that boundaries bring freedom and obedience is a blessing.
4. Talk to them sooner than later about sex.
5. Begin to train your kids on how to interact with the opposite sex.
6. Guard who your kids spend time with.
7. Put Your Computer in a Public Place and Turn Off The T.V.
8. Seek to cultivate a relationship with your kids such that they feel as though they can be open with you about anything.
Go here for the whole thing.  It's worth the read, especially here in the OC.

7.14.2009

Twitter Will Kill You

Share this with your addicted friends.

David Crowder*Band Rockumentary 4:

7.01.2009

Proverbs Resource

To know wisdom and instruction,
to understand words of insight,
to receive instruction in wise dealing,
in righteousness, justice, and equity;
to give prudence to the simple,
knowledge and discretion to the youth—
Let the wise hear and increase in learning,
and the one who understands obtain guidance,
to understand a proverb and a saying,
the words of the wise and their riddles.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge;
fools despise wisdom and instruction.

6.25.2009

Cut the Cable

We did.  The price kept going up and we didn't want to keep up...and - pleasant (and predictable) surprise!  The lack of TV has opened life up all the more with quality family and reading time.  I don't really miss it.

But here's even better reasons for watching your TV watching (and not just watching TV).  

6.19.2009

America's Debt to John Calvin

From World Magazine.

Piper, quoting Kuyper:
In the rise of your university education . . . in the decentralized . . . character of your local governments . . . in your championship of free speech, and in your unlimited regard for freedom of conscience; in all this . . . it is demonstrable that you owe this to Calvinism and to Calvinism alone.
And yet most of us have no idea.

She Gets It

...and says it far better than I.

This is how I feel about my babies.

The State of Sudan


My in-laws are missionaries in Sudan.  They've passed this article along as a good summary of the situation.

From the Economist:

Under the terms of a peace agreement with the northern government of Mr Bashir signed in 2005, the south is expected to vote for secession in a referendum in 2011. The prospect of gaining a new country, South Sudan, raised hopes of an end to Sudan’s civil war between the predominantly Muslim north and the Christian and animist south, which lasted on and off for the best part of 50 years. At last, the flattened south would rebuild itself.

Now, however, even many southerners, let alone their fiercely partisan foreign backers, worry that the region’s progress towards independence is going awry. Not only is there the increasing rate of intertribal violence and the hostility of the north to contend with. But the south’s woes have been added to by the incompetence and corruption of the Government of Southern Sudan (GOSS), mainly composed of former guerrilla fighters in the SPLM, the political movement of the SPLA. They have managed to spend about $5 billion in oil revenues over the past four years with very little to show for it, apart from weapons. At the present rate, South Sudan will fail before it has even been born.

5.29.2009

Finding God's Will

This is an excellent lecture on the topic.

From Kevin DeYoung, at NEXT.

Slow Down the Texting!

From Al Mohler:

Statistics can be used to inform or to mislead, and sometimes they can shock.  See if this statistic isn't shocking:  In the fourth quarter of 2008 American teenagers sent and received an average of 2,272 text messages per month.  That, dear friends, is nothing to LOL about.

That statistic comes from The New York Times.  In "Texting May Be Taking a Toll," reporter Katie Hafner offers a view into the lives of American teens.  They are fanatical texters.  As Hafner reports, "They do it late at night when their parents are asleep. They do it in restaurants and while crossing busy streets. They do it in the classroom with their hands behind their back. They do it so much their thumbs hurt."

Authorities now blame excessive texting for sleep deprivation, distraction in school, poor grades, and even repetitive stress injuries.  These teens are texting while they should be sleeping, and they are sleeping with the cell phone set to vibrate so that they can respond to texts from friends without waking parents.

Thirteen Acts of Soul Worship


David Clarkson continues, in his discourse on soul idolatry:
Before we come to confirm and apply this truth, it will be requisite to make a more clear discovery of this secret idolatry, the most that are guilty of it not taking notice of their guilt, because they account nothing idolatry but what is openly and outwardly so.
He then lists and describes thirteen "acts of soul worship."

1. Esteem.  That which we most highly value we make our God.
2. Mindfulness.  That which we are most mindful of we make our God.
3. Intention.  That which we [make our ultimate goal] we make our God.
4. Resolution.  That which we resolve [to pursue] we make our God.
5. Love.  That which we love [the most] we make our God.
6. Trust.  That which we most trust we make our God.
   "For confidence and dependence is an act of worship which the Lord calls for as due only to          himself."
7. Fear.  That which we most fear (respect, revere) we worship as our God.
8. Hope.  That which we make our hope we worship as God.
9. Desire.  That which we most desire we worship as our God.
10. Delight. That which we most delight and rejoice in, that we worship as God.
11. Zeal.  That for which are more zealous we worship as God.
12. Gratitude.  That to which we are most grateful, that we worship as God.
13. Care and Industry. That whom we serve we worship as God.

Who is your God?  May we be like Thomas who, when seeing Jesus, proclaimed:

"My Lord and my God."  

And my Jesus Christ receive our sole soul worship.

5.20.2009

William Young (Author of the Shack) Tells Us What He Believes


An interview by Kendall Adams, pastor of the Burlington Baptist Church, with William P. Young of The Shack.  He discusses what he believes about the doctrines of the atonement and hell.  Worth knowing if you liked the book.

Secret and Soul Idolatry


David Clarkson writes of the "twofold worship due only to God, internal and external."

External worship is the religious activity - bowing, and I suppose singing, reciting, and whatever else goes along with a religious service.

Internal worship, as Clarkson says, is "the acts of the soul and actions answerable thereto."
When the mind is most taken up with an object, and the heart and affections most set upon it, this is soul worship, and this is due only to God.  For He being the chief good, and the last end of intelligent creatures, it is his due, proper to him alone, to be most minded and most affected; it is the hour due only to the Lord to have the first, the highest place, both in our minds and hearts and endeavors.
Therein, external idolatry is something like bowing to an idol.  But secret and soul idolatry is
when the mind and heart is set upon anything more than God; when anything is more valued, more intended; anything more trusted, more loved, or our endeavors more for any other thing than God.
Clarkson chillingly concludes:
Secret idolaters shall have no inheritance in the kingdom of God.
Every thought, attitude, word and deed is one of worship.  The worship is either true - devoted to the God of the Bible - or false - devoted to anything else.  This is paramount for all of life and specifically for counseling.  Our problems of the soul, our relationships, and our outlook are so often problems of lingering soul idolatry.

5.19.2009

Spoiling The Blessing

My sermon from May 3rd on Genesis 12.10-20 (where Abe sells out on his wife).

Single and Fully Feminine

From Carolyn McCulley

As found on Mary Kassian's Girls Gone Wise

Christian-Secular Culture Disclaimers (Excuses)

Prodigaljohn pins us.  Funny.

HT: Rachel

Not As Obvious, Far More Pervasive, and Perhaps More Destructive Idolatry

After hearing Tim Keller's paradigm-shifting sermon at the Gospel Coalition Conference as well as reading Greg Beale's We Become What We Worship, I'm thinking a lot about idolatry.

I'm now reading David Clarkson's Soul Idolatry Excludes Men Out of Heaven  (Download it here.) and plan to blog through it slowly.

This morning's reading packed a punch.  Considering Ephesians 5.5 Clarkson pronounces that
Indeed, every reigning lust is an idol, and every person in whom it reigns is an idolater.  The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride of life are carnal man's trinity.
What is idolatry? Clarkson names idolatry as following: 
To give that honor and worship to the creature which is due only to God.  

To transfer that respect which is due only to God, from Him to the creature.
Next time: "twofold worship"

5.06.2009

Home Is Where The Heart Is (Revealed)

The devil comes dressed as an angel of light (2 Cor. 11.14), but don’t go on the date ‘til you’ve considered his resume.  We all know a little of what it means to gloss up - to look our best our for certain situations.  For many settings this is completely appropriate.  You don’t dress the same for a banquet as you do for movie night at home.  Obviously. 

But our dress gets dangerous when it’s hiding something. 

Integrity is a theme of biblical proportions.  One definition of integrity is “being whole and undivided.”  Integrity isn’t measured by your best moments.  It’s measured by all your moments.  This means that the ultimate issue is the state of your heart.

Even the prophet Samuel had to be reminded of the importance of the inner heart rather than outer appearance.  When searching for the next king Samuel was greatly impressed by appearances of height and strength.  God set things straight by declaring, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Sam 16.7)

The heart is where the Lord is looking, and that’s where we ought to be focusing our attention as well.  Jesus continually dropped this reality on the church-folk of His day.  When they were uptight about His hygene before lunch, and He went after their hearts.  He insisted, “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. (Matthew 15.18-19)”

Later it will come to cursing.  That’s what Jesus inevitably gives to the fakes.  He proclaims,

Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. 26 You blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean. 
27 “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people's bones and all uncleanness. 28 So you also outwardly appear righteous to others, but within you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness. (Matthew 23.25-28)

This hurts.  On the outside, things can look clean and white, meticulously cared for.  We’re trying so hard to make sure everyone knows we’ve been churchy.  But inside?  A tomb of filth.

So who are you, really?  How’s your heart?  Only the Lord knows that perfectly.  But there is a sign, a map, a hint, a clue. We find it in 1 Timothy, where Paul is giving Timothy the knowledge he needs to make sure he’s getting leaders of true heart.  He writes, 

Therefore an overseer must be… above reproach, the husband of one wife… He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?
Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well. 13 For those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and also great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus. (1 Timothy 3.1-13)

Where does one look to check for integrity?  One key place to look is at home.  You are who you truly are at home.  The health of your heart is revealed in your closest relationships.  It’s the season for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day…so how’s your heart at home?

If there were a situation where your husband, your wife, your son, your daughter, your closest friend, could and would speak honestly, what might that testimony reveal about your heart?  Would there be found, not perfect of course, but genuine integrity?  Or does your churchy best hide a tomb? 

The Lord is looking at your heart. Jesus said this of His coming:

19 And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. 20 For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. 21 But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.” (John 3.19-21)

A lack of integrity, a churched-up gloss betrayed by hell at home, reveals a resistance to the light.  We’ve got those deeds lurking at home – explosions of rage, passive rejection, poisonous words, horrid habits – and, we think, “we must not have those exposed!” So we will not come to the light we so desperately need.

O my friends, this heart probing is painful, but it is about love.  Our Lord graciously invites us to the light we so desperately need.

If this is speaking to you personally, Jesus invites you to come to the light.  Come to Him.  He exclaims, “I am the light of the world!” (John 14.12) He is eager to free us from our fake!  And make us free indeed (John 14.36).

How does one go about this?  I’ve three ideas:

1) Go to Jesus.  Honestly confess in detail.  Honestly repent in detail.  And put all your hope on the Gospel.  He has died as your substitute, for your cleansing, and to enable your transformation.  Be forgiven, loved, and changed!

2) Go to those you’ve sinned against.  Honestly confess in detail.  Honestly repent in detail.  Be reconciled!

3) Be accountable.  We need one another.  There are no Christians who are both maverick and thriving.  Find one trustworthy, and honestly share your struggles, inviting confrontation and encouragement in the Gospel.

It’s hard, no doubt.  But it’s time for some spring cleaning.  There corpses in the corners of hearts.  Let’s go to Jesus, the One who is looking at our hearts, and have Him turn on the light, that our hearts might beat of Him at home.

5.01.2009

Singleness

Important.
There are those who say that singleness is better, but unfortunately that is not the experience of many who have been single long-term. Tim Adeney looks at why, and what we can do to love and serve the single people in our churches.


4.29.2009

My Review of Wholly Jesus

Ampelon Publishing was very kind to send me a copy for review.

4.28.2009

If the Bhuddha, Krishna, and Jesus were all at a dinner table together...

they would not be arguing, they would be worshiping Jesus.
John Mark Reynolds

4.20.2009

Resources for Church Planting

From Ed Stetzer

Dancing in China

Go sis!

The Gospel Coalition

Tomorrow morning I head to the Gospel Coalition Conference.

Here's the intro video:



Also:




and least importantly, I'll be twittering my occasional thoughts.

4.16.2009

Sunday School on Steroids

Listen to 


and 


teach theology!

Guidelines For Loving Amidst Differences

From Piper to his staff:
  • Let’s avoid gossiping.
  • Let’s identify evidences of grace in each other and speak them to each other and abouteach other.
  • Let’s speak criticism directly to each other if we feel the need to speak to others about it.
  • Let’s look for, and assume, the best motive in the other’s viewpoint, especially when we disagree.
  • Think often of the magnificent things we hold in common.
  • Let’s be more amazed that we are forgiven than that we are right. And in that way, let’s shape our relationships by the gospel.

  • Fathers: Be Wary of "Replacement Glory"

    From Buzzard, quoting Tripp.
    A man will forget that, as a father, he has been welcomed to the transcendent glory of being part of God's work of forming human souls. Instead he will buy into the replacement glory of career success. More and more, his life will be eaten up and defined by his work. Less and less will his sense of purpose have to do with the formative community that only he can offer his children. Sadly, his children cease to be one of the joyful focuses of his living and become an obligation in an already-too-busy schedule. Less and less do his children know him, respect him, trust him, or feel his love.

    4.15.2009

    The Apple of Christ's Eye; The Apple of Mine

    In an interview, pastor Bill Kittrell had this answer:
    I remember the story you tell, C.J., of someone asking you after your daughter Nicole was born, “I bet Nicole is the apple of your eye?” And C.J. you responded by saying, “No, my wife Carolyn is the apple of my eye.”

    I learned from this counsel (20+ years ago) how to lead my home with an emphasis on my relationship with Cheri. Now that my kids are growing up, getting married, and dumping me like a bad habit, I am grateful that Cheri is my best friend. I am grateful for all the times we have invested in our relationship over all other relationships.

    C.J. you have also said that most men fail in cultivating romance with their wives because they fail to put their plans for romance in the calendar (which is required to make sure the above happen).
    I want to be more like this with my wife...



    Our High Places

    From Kevin De Young, a former classmate.
    ...when it comes to the entertainment choices of the vast majority of Christians in the vast majority of our churches my strong impression is that there is little difference between what we take in and what the rest of the world goes to for a good time.

    4.14.2009

    O, It Was Necessary

    More from Ann.
    And when I rub the marinate into the lamb, blood ponding on plate,
    I think of socially acceptable religion, inoffensive theology
    and my nostrils fill with the stench of my sin,
    and my beating heart hurts for the only God whose wild love
    had him tear open a vein and do the repulsive,
    become a lamb dragged to the slaughter
    for 
    without theoutrageous shedding of blood
    there is no cleansing of my gory mess.

    He Is Alive

    From Ann Voskamp, who says it better than I.

    I was unfamiliar with the painting before coming across it in one of the last galleries,
    shadowed and empty.
    But in that startling quiet, I looked into those alive, ancient eyes and there was an instant recognition, electrifying, of that hardly-belief, that aching-hope, the feet running to tomb,
    now empty and shadowed.

    And all the world flooding with the new dawning.

    4.10.2009

    Our Example

    Getting the Cross All Wrong

    Here's how some are "celebrating" Good Friday.
    CUTUD, ANGELES CITY - Dozens of Catholic devotees were nailed to crosses, scores more whipped their backs and others chanted the Passion of Jesus Christ as Filipinos mixed faith and gory ritual on Good Friday.
    To be fair to the Catholic churches, they do not encourage or condone the behavior.  In fact, I'm well-aware that people in your church don't always listen to or practice your teaching!

    But the point is this.  Those poor people, in punishing themselves, have completely missed the point of the cross.  They don't yet realize that Jesus suffered God's wrath - so that I will never have to.  He suffered God's displeasure - so that I might have peace with God.  He suffered God's hatred - so that I might know God's love.

    You might not be whipping yourself today, but your focus might be on your performance rather than Christ's propitiation.  Don't miss the point of the cross.
    For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (2 Corinthians 5.21)
    But now the righteousness of God has been manifested apart from the law, although the Law and the Prophets bear witness to it— the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe. For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God's righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins. It was to show his righteousness at the present time, so that he might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus. (Romans 3.21-26)

    4.08.2009

    Our Expiation


    The God of Suspense


    From Ed Welch:
    God tells us up front that he is the God of suspense...he assures us that there will be times when we feel surrounded, facing insurmountable odds with no apparent way out.  That, in fact, is part of his good plan for us.  He also tells us that he will bring us to the end of our own cleverness because that is when we are most apt to acknowledge his strong hand alone. (p. 84)

    Sometimes This Is All You've Got

    1 Chronicles 22.16
    Arise and work!  The Lord be with you!

    4.07.2009

    Offending My Offense

    Abraham has a magnificent point.
    When my feelings are hurt, I expect an apology.  Instead, I should probably offer one.

    Unless my feelings define what's right, I'm as likely to be in the wrong by being offended as I am by offending.

    4.02.2009

    A Brilliant Man With Great Thoughts On An Important Topic

    Gender roles, church, and culture.  Tough, essential topics.

    D. A. Carson has two outstanding lectures on these issues.  Must-listen stuff.

    For Marriage And Family

    Great books and other resources recommended by Mark Driscoll.

    I can personally concur with most of them.

    4.01.2009

    Leading Our Kids To Knowing Jesus

    Important resource for parents!

    1. Genuine Salvation: More Than a Prayer

    2. How Children Come to Faith in Christ

    3. Taking Our Children to Church: Is That Enough?

    4. How to Deal With Doubt

    5. Observing Salvation in Your Child: What Does It Look Like?

    6. The Family: No Better Place to Come to Know Christ!

    Transcripts are also available at the bottom of each of these pages’ links.

    I cannot recommend these talks enough to any parent wanting to be thoughtful, careful, and prayerful in the salvation of their children.