Optimism On Opposition

John Ortberg writes about "The Gift of Opposition":

I have given up the idea that there is an opposition-free church out there. But I have gained something else—an appreciation for the gift of opposition. When it comes, I learn something about my motives. When it comes, I get to test my courage. When it comes, the truth about my humility (or lack thereof) is revealed. When it comes, blind spots get exposed that would otherwise do damage. When it comes, I am given the opportunity to grow strong. When it comes, I discover that I am the opposition in more lives than I ever would have guessed.

HT: Tim Challies.

How Do You See Conflict?

Ken Sande's The Peacemaker is an excellent book.  You should read it.  He describes common reactions to conflict:

To some, conflict is a hazard that threatens to seep them off their feet and leave them bruised and hurting.  To others, it is an obstacle that they should conquer quickly and firmly, regardless of the consequences.  But some people have learned that conflict is an opportunity to solve common problems in a way that honors God and offers benefits to those involved. (page 22)

Sande recognizes three basic responses to conflict:

1. Escape

When you're more interested in avoiding conflict than resolving it...

2. Attack

When you're more interested in winning the conflict than preserving the relationship...

3. Peacemaking

When you're more interested in honoring the gospel, growing in sanctification, and loving your neighbor.

What's your tendency?